Well-Paired Team

I saw this poem this morning, by Orson Scott Card (author of the Ender's Game series - one of my favorites), about marriage. Given recent discussions we've had in a marriage and family class I'm in at church, this seems very appropriate. And reminds me how grateful I am for my K.


Well Paired Team
By Orson Scott Card

You don't arrive at marriage, lonely hearts.
The wedding's where the lifelong journey starts,
Forced to travel with a clumsy fool
Or trot along behind a receding dream
(You had to stop and help me when I tripped,
While you would never stick to my passionate script),
Using one another like an ill-made tool,
Like ox and antelope yoked in a single team.
And yet ... somehow, together, we managed to pull
An empty cart straight uphill;
And look -- the creaking, rickety thing is full
Of crockery, old rags, a child or two.

At the start, knowing nothing, we said "I will,"
And now look at all the things I made with you,
All our baggage, all our breakage, art
By unskilled artisans, yet beautiful,
Yours and mine, no matter how peculiar;
New and strange, no matter how familiar.
Some passages were merely dutiful.
Who could know, on our ignorant starting day
That, pulling such a long and weary way,
The man, the woman, strangers side by side,
Would end the trek inside each other's heart,
Trading forgiveness and repentances,
Finishing each other's sentences,
Only to be stranded,
The team -- for now at least -- disbanded.
Now we see how all the road maps lied:
Our destination was the yoke we shared,
Badly at first, but by the end well paired.
And only when you died did I leave my home
And pointlessly, empty-carted, roam.
You don't arrive at marriage, lonely hearts.
The wedding's where the lifelong journey starts.

It's been 13 years...

...since K agreed to marry me, which means we've now been married for 12 1/2 years! Actually, it was 13 years yesterday (shame on me for not saying anything -- we got caught up in election night and watching a couple episodes of The Office together).

I know she'll hate that I posted this, but sometimes I just can't avoid it. The last 13 years have been the best of my life for so many reasons, most of them having to do with this incredibly smart and beautiful woman who agreed to make the wonderful and challenging journey through life by my side. I'm looking forward to spending the next... oh... eternity with her...

I love you, K. :)